I caught my man wearing my knickers

12:55pm Thursday 6th December 2007

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Q Dave, I'm Helen and need some advice regarding my boyfriend.

I've been with him nearly a year now and he spends virtually all the time at my place.

I came home early from a works do last week and caught him parading round the house in my underwear.

At the time I completely freaked out but lately I've started to feel strangely turned on by this. Is this natural?

A. Well Helen, having never been in a situation like this I can only assume how surreal this scenario might seem to you.

What you may well have here is a boyfriend who is well and truly in touch with his feminine side (which many are, but perhaps don't subscribe to dressing up in their partners clothes), or maybe a boyfriend that dabbles in cross-dressing (which some do), or a boyfriend who was just plain curious.

Either way, you haven't caught him cheating or stealing from you and he wasn't out with his mates when you got home.

This is now the perfect time and opportunity for both of you to sit down and talk about what happened but rather than do this in a confrontational way talk to him in an inquisitive way so as not to give him the feeling that he's abnormal, but in the sense that you're interested in why he did this.

You mentioned that you "started to feel strangely turned on" by this. Therefore ask him how long he's had these urges for; maybe suggest that it'll add another dimension to your love life.

The more you talk to him, the more relaxed he'll feel about all of this, and the more you'll get to know about what's in his mind.