Marriage is best

First published in Letters

DO WE really strive for the right things in life? “Key Date on Adolescence 2013” published by the Association for Young People’s Health (AYPH) covers an amazing range of statistics. But what stood out was the phrase “More needs to be done to support lone parents to prevent young people being adversely affected by poverty”.

Since the 1970s the number of lone-parent families has doubled. Those children did not choose the family into which they were born and yet have found themselves in a group that on average is disadvantaged.

“More needs to be done to avoid so many children being born into lone-parent families.” We live in a time where to comment on individual freedom to choose a particular lifestyle is dangerously controversial.

Some lone parents will cope brilliantly with everything that life throws at them and their children, but by any measure (and on average) children brought into a married family do better than any other children.

If one believes that marriage represents the best model, why should we and the government not do more to actively promote it?

At least then children who have no choice as to which family they are born into would have a better chance overall.

Often treating the cause of a problem is better than just controlling the symptoms.

Norman Plaisted Vivian Road Newport

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7:57pm Wed 16 Apr 14

Mervyn James says...

Since it is a right to ignore the state and marriage, I cannot see anyone getting far, single parents are the norm married parents are the minority, promiscurity and an inability to maintain a relationship is a norm too. It starts day one with parents having no idea what a relationship is, passing on that ignorance to their children, and normalising it as a right to sleep with whoever they want when they want and without worrying about the results of unprotected sex.

This is why we get a 12yr old female child having a baby with a 13yr old boy. If it is OK Mum and her Dad to have children here there and everywhere without any moral brake, and numerous siblings each with a different father...... these children won't see their behaviour is any worse. With few exceptions these people need preventing from having children until they can prove they can support them.

It's OK to have sex, NOT OK to keep having children without a stable father-mother around. There was an 19yr old on TV last week who had 5 children already by 5 different women, and he aid nothing to anyone of them and was expecting another n 2 months time. What astounds, is the utter stupidity of the females he was with. Had none heard of contraception, the morning after pill, or even abortion ?
Since it is a right to ignore the state and marriage, I cannot see anyone getting far, single parents are the norm married parents are the minority, promiscurity and an inability to maintain a relationship is a norm too. It starts day one with parents having no idea what a relationship is, passing on that ignorance to their children, and normalising it as a right to sleep with whoever they want when they want and without worrying about the results of unprotected sex. This is why we get a 12yr old female child having a baby with a 13yr old boy. If it is OK Mum and her Dad to have children here there and everywhere without any moral brake, and numerous siblings each with a different father...... these children won't see their behaviour is any worse. With few exceptions these people need preventing from having children until they can prove they can support them. It's OK to have sex, NOT OK to keep having children without a stable father-mother around. There was an 19yr old on TV last week who had 5 children already by 5 different women, and he aid nothing to anyone of them and was expecting another n 2 months time. What astounds, is the utter stupidity of the females he was with. Had none heard of contraception, the morning after pill, or even abortion ? Mervyn James
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6:17am Thu 17 Apr 14

Dee-Gee says...

Single parents are not the norm.

http://www.gingerbre
ad.org.uk/content/36
5/Statistics

From the charity Gingerbread's website:

Here are the facts about single parents

* Just over a quarter (26 per cent) of households with dependent children are single parent families, and there are 2 million single parents in Britain today. This figure has remained consistent since the mid-1990’s
* Less than 2 per cent of single parents are teenagers
* The median age of single parents is 38.1
* Around half of single parents had their children within marriage – 49 per cent are separated from marriage, divorced or widowed
* 60.2 per cent of single parents are in work, up 15.5 percentage points since 1997

Sources are referenced on the website
Single parents are not the norm. http://www.gingerbre ad.org.uk/content/36 5/Statistics From the charity Gingerbread's website: Here are the facts about single parents * Just over a quarter (26 per cent) of households with dependent children are single parent families, and there are 2 million single parents in Britain today. This figure has remained consistent since the mid-1990’s * Less than 2 per cent of single parents are teenagers * The median age of single parents is 38.1 * Around half of single parents had their children within marriage – 49 per cent are separated from marriage, divorced or widowed * 60.2 per cent of single parents are in work, up 15.5 percentage points since 1997 Sources are referenced on the website Dee-Gee
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9:43am Thu 17 Apr 14

Katie Re-Registered says...

I think lone parents are disadvantaged because the current government has decided to actively discriminate against them though, Norman. Take the married tax breaks, for instance: that system gives tax breaks to childless couples yet does not give tax breaks to single people with children. I also think that lone parents are not a new phenomenon. Following World War One and World War Two there was a massive increase in women who had been widowed as a result of their husbands' being killed in action and during the 1920s and 1950s there must have been millions of women who were left to bring up their children without fathers.

Though they know full well they daren't factor war widows into the equation, it unfortunately seems that the political establishment and right-wing dominated media are conducting an ideological war against lone parents and also single people who are scapegoated in an attempt to offer explanation to given ills in society that can constitute anything from moral collapse, increase in crime statistics - and even paedophilia and terrorism (according to the media all terrorists and paedophiles are single people!) Truth is that the latter are more likely to be found within the tradition nuclear family - yet that doesn't such good copy when the daily tabloids are trying to sell their scribble rags, eh?;)
I think lone parents are disadvantaged because the current government has decided to actively discriminate against them though, Norman. Take the married tax breaks, for instance: that system gives tax breaks to childless couples yet does not give tax breaks to single people with children. I also think that lone parents are not a new phenomenon. Following World War One and World War Two there was a massive increase in women who had been widowed as a result of their husbands' being killed in action and during the 1920s and 1950s there must have been millions of women who were left to bring up their children without fathers. Though they know full well they daren't factor war widows into the equation, it unfortunately seems that the political establishment and right-wing dominated media are conducting an ideological war against lone parents and also single people who are scapegoated in an attempt to offer explanation to given ills in society that can constitute anything from moral collapse, increase in crime statistics - and even paedophilia and terrorism (according to the media all terrorists and paedophiles are single people!) Truth is that the latter are more likely to be found within the tradition nuclear family - yet that doesn't such good copy when the daily tabloids are trying to sell their scribble rags, eh?;) Katie Re-Registered
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3:09pm Thu 17 Apr 14

Bobevans says...

Katie Re-Registered wrote:
I think lone parents are disadvantaged because the current government has decided to actively discriminate against them though, Norman. Take the married tax breaks, for instance: that system gives tax breaks to childless couples yet does not give tax breaks to single people with children. I also think that lone parents are not a new phenomenon. Following World War One and World War Two there was a massive increase in women who had been widowed as a result of their husbands' being killed in action and during the 1920s and 1950s there must have been millions of women who were left to bring up their children without fathers.

Though they know full well they daren't factor war widows into the equation, it unfortunately seems that the political establishment and right-wing dominated media are conducting an ideological war against lone parents and also single people who are scapegoated in an attempt to offer explanation to given ills in society that can constitute anything from moral collapse, increase in crime statistics - and even paedophilia and terrorism (according to the media all terrorists and paedophiles are single people!) Truth is that the latter are more likely to be found within the tradition nuclear family - yet that doesn't such good copy when the daily tabloids are trying to sell their scribble rags, eh?;)
Currently the tax and benefits system heavily favours single parents. Single parents also cost the tax payers over double that of married couples

Children from single parent families are far more likely to under achieve, far more likely to become single parents, far more likely to be involved in crime and drugs so it make sense to discourage such families
[quote][p][bold]Katie Re-Registered[/bold] wrote: I think lone parents are disadvantaged because the current government has decided to actively discriminate against them though, Norman. Take the married tax breaks, for instance: that system gives tax breaks to childless couples yet does not give tax breaks to single people with children. I also think that lone parents are not a new phenomenon. Following World War One and World War Two there was a massive increase in women who had been widowed as a result of their husbands' being killed in action and during the 1920s and 1950s there must have been millions of women who were left to bring up their children without fathers. Though they know full well they daren't factor war widows into the equation, it unfortunately seems that the political establishment and right-wing dominated media are conducting an ideological war against lone parents and also single people who are scapegoated in an attempt to offer explanation to given ills in society that can constitute anything from moral collapse, increase in crime statistics - and even paedophilia and terrorism (according to the media all terrorists and paedophiles are single people!) Truth is that the latter are more likely to be found within the tradition nuclear family - yet that doesn't such good copy when the daily tabloids are trying to sell their scribble rags, eh?;)[/p][/quote]Currently the tax and benefits system heavily favours single parents. Single parents also cost the tax payers over double that of married couples Children from single parent families are far more likely to under achieve, far more likely to become single parents, far more likely to be involved in crime and drugs so it make sense to discourage such families Bobevans
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3:43am Sat 19 Apr 14

dragonlady1 says...

Bob Evans you are talking a load of rubbish again, I have brought up 3 children on my own and they have not under achieve, the eldest is now a Manager for a investment bank and living abroad, the middle child is a qualified carpenter and the youngest is at the moment at Uni studying to be an accountant and are not involved in crime and drugs. So before you tar every single parent with the same brush please do your research and talk to single parents.
Bob Evans you are talking a load of rubbish again, I have brought up 3 children on my own and they have not under achieve, the eldest is now a Manager for a investment bank and living abroad, the middle child is a qualified carpenter and the youngest is at the moment at Uni studying to be an accountant and are not involved in crime and drugs. So before you tar every single parent with the same brush please do your research and talk to single parents. dragonlady1
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