COUPLES trying to cope with the coronavirus lockdown should work as a team and make future plans to keep their relationship strong during the crisis, experts have said.

Making use of any additional spare time to build friendship, having realistic expectations and trying to see the best in your partner despite the difficult situation will also help those struggling with the change in circumstances caused by the virus outbreak.

Academics from the University of Exeter working on the Shackleton Relationships Project - backed by high profile divorce lawyer Baroness Shackleton - have developed practical tips for people trying to survive self-isolating with their partner.

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Professor Anne Barlow, who is leading the project, said: "New Covid-19 measures restricting our freedom to go out are bound to put couple relationships under pressure, even when family members are not ill. Yet keeping your closest relationships strong is even more important in a time of crisis.

"Over the past few years our research has shown what helps long-term relationships to thrive and we hope this further advice helps people during this difficult period."

The experts advise people to:

  • Approach the issue as a team: As we face possible illness or illness of a loved one and potential money worries, pulling together as a team is vital.
  • Build your friendship: Make good use of the additional time you have by setting aside time to build your friendship - go for a walk together or cook a nice meal for your partner.
  • Use the time to make plans: This enforced isolation will not last forever. Use the time to make plans for your future to keep you both positive.
  • Keep your expectations realistic: We are living in stressful times. Tempers will fray. Household budgets will be stretched.
  • Try to see the best in your partner: Acknowledge that you are each trying your best in difficult circumstances and try to be tolerant.
  • Show you care: Show your partner you care through small gestures. Divide household chores fairly if you are both working from home.
  • Keep communicating: You are both likely to be anxious. Talk about how you're feeling. Listen to and acknowledge your partner's concerns.
  • Commit to working through this time together: Looking to a positive future together will help you to work through these uncertain times.
  • Be flexible: As Government advice changes, the restrictions on how we live our life together may change.
  • Get support: Try to stay connected with family and friends for support and encouragement.

They interviewed 10 divorce lawyers or mediators and two judges to ask them the key reasons why relationships fail.

They also interviewed 45 couples married for 10 years, or who had separated during this period, and 10 other couples in same-sex and opposite-sex relationships, who had been living together, married or in a civil partnership for at least 15 years.